I am responsible for my own orgasm, you are responsible for yours, and every woman is responsible for her own orgasm; you cannot expect your partner to give you an orgasm, it is like asking for a glass of water and expecting them to drink it for you, yet expecting your own thirst to be quenched. And I say this from personal experience. Until I was aware of what brings me pleasure, what excites me the most, and what I want from a man in bed, until I learned that it is necessary to ask for or guide my partner without shyness and inhibitions, I cannot say that I was totally satisfied. In other words, confidence in one's own body and a good self-image are aspects that matter enormously, because they allow you to express yourself freely when initiating the sexual act and throughout it. I have often heard women who do not have sex because they are not wearing makeup at that moment or because they are in between waxing sessions, when they have hair on their legs and elsewhere. In many cases, the sexual act happens spontaneously, in which case a good self-image is not hindered by a few hairs, cellulite, and some stretch marks. Let's be serious, we are not perfect and we are not always like dolls taken out of a box. The important thing is to get rid of the shame surrounding this subject, the shame towards our own body, to find the strength to talk openly with our partner, to explore together with our partner, so that we can enjoy this pleasure, to allow ourselves to feel free, unjudged. Likewise, exploring your own body, your own sexuality, and how you want to have sex depends only on you. Yes, the partner can help improve the quality of the sexual act, discover other sexual pleasures, and explore fantasies, but the foundation is with you and within you.