When it comes to sex, they say the wetter, the better! I wouldn't say that men necessarily agree with this, but they certainly don't like it when natural lubrication ceases and friction occurs, which usually leaves marks for both him and his partner. And if you only associate lubricant with vaginal dryness, it's time to change your perspective a little! According to a 2009 study by Indiana University involving 2,453 women, participants reported that, more than 70% of the time, lubricant made sex more pleasant and enjoyable. Carli Blau, LMSW, a sex and relationship therapist in New York City, confirms that “needing a lubricant does not mean you are not interested in your partner.” So, let's get rid of the idea that lubrication is the only indicator of arousal and start trusting our partner's words. Why? Because as I like to say, the vagina is like the climate. But what happens when your partner doesn't get wet, even if the state of arousal is present? Do not think it is your fault that you are not exciting her enough, and do not think there is something wrong with her body. What could be the reasons why it doesn't rain?nn1. Like types of terrain, some women are simply like a hyper-arid desert. Just as some people sweat more, others less, and some not at all, the same goes for the production of vaginal fluids. This does not mean she doesn't enjoy it, just that a lubricant is needed.nn2. While some women get wet just at the thought of having sex, others need a longer foreplay... you know the saying, there’s never too much foreplay.nn3. Birth control pills - estrogen is responsible for lubrication, so using these little pills can be one of the reasons.nn4. Medication with antihistamines, in the case of women with allergies, can also be a cause.nn5. Before the menstrual cycle - the level of lubrication changes with the phases of the menstrual cycle due to hormonal changes, so that after ovulation and before menstruation, lubrication is reduced.nn6. Douching - can cause vaginal dryness.nn7. Medication - e.g., Accutane - which quite a few women use to treat acne. This powerful drug reduces the amount of sebum produced and shrinks the sebaceous glands. People who take it suffer from dry skin, eyes, and nose, along with vaginal dryness.nn8. Dehydration, breastfeeding, and stress. Conclusion? Women are like the seasons, some rainier, some drier, but they all have their beauty. Pleasure is a fundamental aspect of a safe and healthy sex life. Lubricants have advantages and disadvantages. Water-based ones are good for sensitive skin. Silicone and oil-based ones last longer but can damage toys and condoms. Natural options like olive oil can be used, but they also have potential risks. Let's take a quick look at the types of lubricants. Known as "versatile" lubricant, water-based lubricants can be used in practically any activity you can think of - even those involving silicone toys. They are safe to use with both latex and non-latex condoms and can decrease the risk of condom breakage. If you have really sensitive skin, however, it is best to try a silicone-based lubricant, which is like silk foil on your sensitive parts. Because silicone is hypoallergenic, most people will not have any reaction. This type of lubricant also lasts longer and is safe to use with condoms. Also, if you like sex in the water, using silicone lubricant makes the experience much more pleasant because water usually washes everything away, she says. What would be the only disadvantage? The silicone in the lubricant can damage the surface of silicone toys, creating abrasions where bacteria can grow. If you are the type who doesn't like to stop having sex to reapply lubricant, this oil-based type is perfect because it lasts longer. Oil-based lubricants can also be used for massage, both of the genitals and the whole body. The downside comes if you use a latex condom. It is not recommended to use oil-based lubricants with latex condoms because it can increase the risk of breakage. Another disadvantage is that oil tends to stain sheets and clothes and can also be difficult to clean. If you want to go the natural route, natural lubricants have appeared in recent years, although there is a small debate about what "natural lubricant" really means. Aloe vera-based ones are a very good choice. Coconut oil is also a popular choice, although it has drawbacks. Research from 2014 shows that it is a clinically safe moisturizer, but it can increase the chances of condom breakage because oils destroy the effectiveness of latex. Also, make sure it is used only for sex and nothing else, so don't use it for cooking either.