Life has taught me to ask myself questions at every step, in order to know myself much better, first and foremost… to understand why I did certain things, why I repeated some of them, what my lessons were and still are, to find out what is good for me, what are the true things that make me feel good, as well as the impact of my actions on others, because we are different, we think differently, we feel differently, and most of the time it is good to meet halfway. For this, it is necessary to become a better version of ourselves every day.
I chose to approach this subject because many men desire this. Is it normal? For some, yes, for some, no; however, what is important is your own normality, as long as you know what is driving you in this direction and what impact it may have on you, on your partner, and on your relationship. It can be a fulfilling act, it can increase the level of intimacy in the couple, the ecstasy, the desire to experience and live new sensations, but it can also be destructive for some couples.
No one is to be judged, and this is something I want to draw attention to!
The experiences we live, we each perceive differently, in which case judgment has no place here.
But why not analyze ourselves a little before taking this step, why not listen to the stories of those who have experienced it, so that we have as complex a picture as possible?
There are things we are not aware of, and sometimes someone's opinion can open a door to certain answers.
I can ask you a few questions for you to answer for yourselves, and I also ask you to share this kind of experience if you have lived it, for those who need to hear.
Is the desire to see your wife/partner while she is being penetrated by another man born out of love and connection?
Is it born out of the desire to tick off another sexual experience on your list?
Or is it born from the subconscious, from the desire to humiliate your partner? Does it represent the satisfaction of your own sexual desires and fantasies, or is it the joy of being able to offer her the pleasure of experiencing novelty?
Or perhaps the level of intimacy in the relationship is so high that honesty and the expression of your true sexual desires do not represent an obstacle?
Is it truly her real desire as well, and is she not doing it out of a desire to please you and offer you pleasure?