What does it represent? A list of things you know help you calm down when you are upset, which aid in your ability to recover or adapt to a situation or change with greater ease, and help you recharge your batteries. Why do I call it a basket? Because when I think about what makes me feel good, I imagine going to a store and choosing what I like from a shelf. There are many potential items you could put in your basket:● A playlist of music or songs that you find uplifting, soothing, or relaxing, or that give you an energy boost● A stuffed animal you can hug● A list of friends or support figures (coaches, therapists) you can contact● Activities you know will help lower your stress or tension level in a given situation, such as yoga, running, dancing, fitness, swimming, breathing exercises, punching a pillow or a punching bag, or a massage● A guided meditation (link to a guided meditation – paid)● Essential oils or massage oils for calming scents or self-massage● Crystals. Sex is the art of being. As you are, so is your sex life. Your capacity and ability to navigate the challenges of everyday life with grace greatly influence the quality of your sex life, the quality of your relationship, and your interaction with those around you. These are the real reasons why it is necessary to use tools that help you return to a neutral position in less pleasant situations, where you feel stressed, tense, anxious, angry, ashamed, judged, or perhaps just tired. From a neutral position, you handle a situation differently: with empathy, both towards yourself and towards the person you are interacting with, with understanding, respect, appreciation, and gratitude—you build, you do not destroy. The existence of a safety basket is a simple way to have something to hold onto when you encounter difficulties.